Should you share the good news about your pregnancy with everyone on your social media account, or is it better to keep such things private? Read about one mother's decision to be open about her entire journey and the backlash she received from it
When I found out I was pregnant for the first time six years ago, the very first person I told was my husband.
We had been desperately trying to conceive for three years, so after countless trips to the fertility specialist, the both of us going on special diets, and trying various alternative methods to boost our chances, when our prayers were finally answered we were very excited to share the good news with everyone we knew.
We told our immediate family in person and I called my best friend on the phone (as she lives overseas).
It had not been an easy journey for the both of us and as a writer, I would pen down my thoughts and emotions in words or type it out onscreen.
Why social media?
Although the world of social media wasn't something new nor novel at the time (remember Friendster and Myspace?), I had just gotten the hang of Facebook because it took me a while to finally jump on the bandwagon and see what all the fuss was about over this fast-growing social networking platform.
I was amazed by the number of old friends I could easily connect to and pretty soon I was hooked!
Being a Third Culture Kid (TCK) who has migrated a few times and moved to countless new neighbourhoods within each country, it's been hard to stay in touch with friends and form strong friendships that last, so social media is a great way to stay connected with former schoolmates and my relatives who are also scattered across the globe.
Big news like me finally getting pregnant after several years of trying was definitely something I was eager to announce to my entire Facebook friends list.
Some might say that private matters like this should only be shared with a select few, such as your parents, siblings and closest of friends you can count with one hand, so why the need to proclaim it to the long list of old friends and relatives?
Personally, I'm not the sort to randomly add people on Facebook unless I actually know them in person and are actually friends with them, as I share such personal pictures and details about my life there.
There is a long list of friend requests that I have no intentions of accepting, even though I have met them before or they are a friend of a friend, because I just do not feel comfortable showing them this side of my life.
I may love social media and connecting with others online, but I am still selective with those I want to open up to.
Baby number two
When we started trying for our second baby, it seemed as though it was going to be a long and difficult process yet again as another three years had gone by without any sign of two pink lines on that test stick.
So I dealt with all this sadness and anger that was eating away inside me by writing it all out in status updates, long-winded rambles, and emotional poems.
Everyone had a small window into my world to know what I was going through to try and conceive this baby.
When a miracle finally did happen, naturally I shared the exciting announcement online once again.
Congratulatory messages came pouring in and I was giddy with joy -- not from all the attention, but by the touching fact that so many people had been rooting for me and were genuinely happy to hear the good news.
But my happiness was short-lived.
Go to the next page to read more about what happened to my second pregnancy journey