No two children are alike (even if they are twins
!) especially when it comes to their personal interests and ability to learn.
If your older daughter plays the violin beautifully but your son's musical attempts are far from perfect, don't worry because there is absolutely nothing wrong with him -- perhaps playing music is just not the right choice for him?
Even adults have their own strengths and weaknesses, so it's not fair to expect all children to possess the same exact skills and talents and to excel in the same areas.
According to the Child Whisperer
, Carol Tuttle, who is also a teacher, speaker and bestselling author, there are 4 Energy Types of children
and by knowing your child's personality or "energy type", this can help give you a clue on how to effectively parent your kid, while raising him to be happy, successful and cooperative.
So how do your determine what's your child's energy type and what sort of enrichment classes you should sign him up for which are the best fit to help his natural talents shine?
Identify your child's personality and true nature
Once you have discovered your little one's energy type, it will be easier for you to better understand the hidden messages behind his behaviour, what his worries are and all of his motivations.
Here's a guide to the 4 Energy Types for you to figure out which category your child falls under and what are the best kinds of enrichment classes he will most likely enjoy:
Type 1 children are social butterflies!
Type 1 - The Fun-Loving Child
This social butterfly usually appears to be bouncy and random in his movements and always has a twinkle in his eyes.
He is friendly, animated in his facial expressions, talkative, bright, light-hearted and is quick to engage socially with people he doesn't even know -- although at times he might be judged as flighty, hyperactive and unreliable.
Type 1 children
will rebel if they feel overly controlled, have had too much alone time, or something in their life is too serious. The Fun-Loving Child's primary need is to have fun, and also have happy parents who facilitates a friendship with him.
Suggested enrichment classes:
Anything in small or large group settings with lots of friends which allows him to express himself, such as Public Speaking, Acting/ Speech & Drama, Musical Theatre, Language (Malay, Mandarin, Tamil, English, etc), Dance (Hip Hop, K-Pop, Bellydancing), Modelling, Vocal/ Singing, Capoeira (Brazilian Martial Art), and Storytelling.
Type 2 children are sensitive souls
Type 2 - The Sensitive Child
A Type 2 child
is calm, subtle, thoughtful, peaceful and is in tune with his emotions. He takes things at a slower pace and usually has a softer voice, but is sometimes perceived as shy, wimpy or hypersensitive.
This gentle soul needs his feelings to be acknowledged and also be connected to his family.
If he does start to whine and act up, this is probably because he's frustrated that he's not being heard or feels dismissed, or something in his life feels too intense -- so he just needs some reassurance from you and also needs to learn how to manage his feelings in a healthy way.
Suggested enrichment classes:
Something in calm, peaceful or even natural settings that is either in smaller groups or private one-on-one sessions will make him feel comfortable, like Art (Painting, Sketching, Drawing, Sculpting, Clay-Making), Music (Violin, Piano, Guitar, Cello), Swimming, Book Club, Yoga, Ballet, Reading, Arts & Craft, Baking, Creative Writing, Sewing, and Ice-Skating.
Go to the next page to find out what are the other two energy types in children!