Avoid THIS mistake to raise successful children!

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Do you often say ‘good job’ to your kids? You’ll be surprised to know its ill-effects if you want to raise successful children.

Praising our child comes automatically to us. It doesn’t matter how significant the achievement is, we are quick to say, “Good job” or “I’m proud of you”. According to this report, it may not be in the best interest of the child. Praising a child for their intelligence can undermine his motivation and performance, says Carol Dweck, Ph.D., in her research paper co-written with Claudia M Mueller.

Intelligence is an attribute that most believe is inherent, or something we are born with. We come into this world with inherent abilities and traits. However, Dr Navya Singh, a clinical psychologist believes that, “Intelligence is also something we fine tune and hone throughout our lives as we acquire knowledge and experience. That is only possible over time, as a result of dedication and consistent hard work. Hence, praising children for intelligence, rather than their hard work and the effort to utilise what they have been endowed with, can be counterproductive.”

This method of praising the children makes them lackadaisical and gets them into a fixed mindset. Now, that can be dangerous. As parents, what we should actually aim to do is raise children with an evolving and open mindset. This will quip them to handle setbacks and challenges in the future, without feeling stuck. The last thing you want to do is to make a child feel entitled and thereby shirk away from hard work.

Another renowned psychologist, Kavita Mungi feels getting praised and applauded for, is a need for one and all, and adds, “Intelligent children need the praise just as much as an average or a below average child. But the problem arises when the intelligent child may be applauded to an extent where the need to achieve is lost.”

So how exactly is one supposed to praise to raise successful children? Continue reading for some tips on the same.

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