For years, Hailey Okula dreamed of becoming a mother. It was a dream forged through heartbreak, perseverance, and a fierce love that she shared with her husband, Matthew. On March 29, that dream finally came true with the birth of their son, Crew. But the joy of new life was tragically intertwined with loss. Hailey passed away during childbirth, leaving behind a miracle baby and a husband devastated by the sudden loss of the woman he called his best friend.
A Nurse, A Mentor, A Fighter
Hailey, 33, wasn’t just a nurse. She was a guiding light to many in the medical community and beyond. Known for her compassionate presence and honest voice, she used her social media platforms to share the highs and lows of life as a nurse and as a woman struggling with infertility. With over 418,000 followers, she became a source of strength and hope for countless others walking a similar path.
Whether it was offering words of encouragement to new nurses or opening up about the emotional toll of failed fertility treatments, Hailey approached every post with raw honesty and deep empathy. She reminded her audience that behind the scrubs and smiles, many healthcare workers carry their own private battles, and that those struggles are valid, too.
A Joy Long Awaited
Hailey and Matthew had spent years trying to conceive, enduring the painful uncertainty that often comes with infertility. Their joy was palpable when they learned they were expecting Crew. Every milestone of her pregnancy, Hailey shared with her community. Celebrating each kick, craving, and ultrasound as the miracle they were.
Matthew described their son’s arrival as the fulfillment of their life-long dream. “He is perfect, he is beautiful, and he carries her strength,” he wrote in a post after the delivery.
But their happiness was cut short in the delivery room.
A Rare and Sudden Tragedy
Hailey suffered a rare and catastrophic complication known as an amniotic fluid embolism during her C-section. A condition in which amniotic fluid enters the mother’s bloodstream, triggering a severe allergic-like reaction. It is almost impossible to predict and often fatal.
Despite the medical team’s efforts, Hailey did not survive.
Her death has left the nursing community, her followers, and her loved ones in mourning. Yet through their grief, many have rallied to honor the woman who gave so much of herself to others.
A Legacy That Lives On
In his heartbreaking announcement, Matthew promised to raise Crew with the same love and strength that defined Hailey’s life. He described her not just as a devoted wife and nurse, but as a woman who “changed lives by being exactly who she was; open, brave, and endlessly kind.”
Hailey’s journey has become a powerful reminder of the fragility of life and the quiet heroism of those who serve others, even while facing personal struggles. Her voice, once a beacon of support on screens across the world, now lives on in the community she built, and in the little boy who will grow up hearing about the extraordinary woman who gave him life.
Supporting the Okula Family
Since the announcement of Hailey’s passing, messages of condolence, gratitude, and love have poured in from fellow nurses, mothers, and followers who were touched by her story. Many have asked how they can support Matthew and Crew during this unimaginable time.
A memorial fund and donation page have been created to support Crew’s future and honor Hailey’s memory. The fund will focus on the causes she cared deeply about especially maternal health and nurse wellness.
