You may be divorced, and left with a bunch of children to take care of. But that doesn’t stop you from going back out there and looking for other fishes in the sea. You’re young, attractive, single and ready to mingle.
Huffington Post posted 8 interesting tips for you dating single parents out there. Look through our gallery for the compilation of advice for dating single parents that are planning on introducing their kids to their new lover.
Introduce your new lover to your children only if the relationship is a serious and significant one. Your children do not need to meet everyone you date because they need to understand the idea of stability in relationships and be reassured of security. You have to remember, children will heed whatever their parents do.
Be sure to shower your kids with the same amount of attention they are used to getting when you and your new love gather together with your kids. Remember, this is not one of your dates; it is about your kids warming up to a new person in their lives. Your new lover should put your kids’ needs first.
Your new lover should know as much as he (or she) needs to know about your children. Do not be afraid that telling him too much will scare him away, because the more information he has, the easier he will be able to warm up to them. And that will eventually spark your children’s interest in getting to know him as well.
Do something everyone will enjoy, like watching a movie, go bowling, etc. Pick something with a time limit so your child will enjoy the time and not be overly exhausted. This would make him (or her) want to hang out with the two of you again.
Ask them how they find your new partner, and if there are any concerns. Be sure to address them and find a solution for the problems. You should not simply ignore the problems because problems will probably snowball into a bigger and more difficult issue.
This is not a client relationship luncheon. You cannot expect anyone to like anyone and your goal should not be to have everyone hold a keen regard for one another. The more you insist on having your children be nice and like your new lover, the more it is a sure-fire way to ruin the relationship. Let everyone be comfortable at his or her own pace.
It is important to reassure your children that they only has one mum and one dad, and no one would ever replace the both of you. But also tell that to your child a few months after, so your child would have a clearer picture of the familial situation.
After the introduction, your new lover and your children should continue bonding. But you also don’t want your kids to be forming any attachments should anything happen between you and your lover. Have a pleasant time together but make sure it's infrequent.