All mums feel stretched at the best of times; but for working mums, pressure takes on a whole new meaning. We become experts at multitasking, compromising, and developing an irrational anxiety over school holidays.
As working mums, we are supposed to “have it all”. Or at least that’s what everyone tells us. But you and I know that working mums get along by performing a great balancing act almost on a daily basis.
We develop special jugglery and tightrope walking skills to make sure that we are able to fulfil commitment to our children, our families and our careers, so much so that we have hardly any “me” time left for ourselves.
Yet, we’re often filled with guilt that we’re not as dedicated as we would like to be.
And while we may not be an entirely different species of mums altogether, there are some things that only a mum in the same situation as us truly understands.
1. Getting anxious about school holidays
While school holidays evoke feelings of happiness and spark a sense of adventure in most people, they can lead to unparalleled anxiety for working mums.
Others may be planning vacations for the family, while we sit there with our excel sheets and hand phones in front of us, booking our child into a holiday camp or looking for child care options before they run out of places.
We often end up asking, ‘do kids really need so many weeks off from school’?
2. Turning mundane routine into productive life lessons
Because you need to cram as much as you can in as little time as possible!
No time with your kids and you just need to get on with your chores? No sweat! You just figure that you will have to turn the routine commute time and chore time into quality time with your kids!
You figure a way to get them on a learning journey by involving them in your trip to the supermarket. You give them a budget where they can pick and buy 5 healthy food items of their choice – a little helper on a marketing trip with you, good fun and great bonding, makes you feel like a super productive mum.
3. That constant feeling of inadequacy
We know we are far from perfect. It is a constant struggle to not carry our home issues to work and work challenges into home. Guilt becomes a familiar friend.
Being pulled in so many directions at the same time, makes it hard to feel like we are doing a good job at any of them. It is easy to get sucked into feeling mediocre and not good enough. We end up overlooking everything that we are doing right and focus only on what we are unable to do.
But dear working mums, we get it right so many times and our sacrifices do go a long way.
Watch this video to see how our love impacts our kids while we may think that we are not dedicated enough.
Read on to find out what compromises a working mum is happy to make.