Trouble in the bungalow
22 year old Puran Sahoo and his wife, Manju, worked as servants in a bungalow in Bangalore. Among the employees was Shiv, a fellow co-worker. On a Saturday night at around 9pm, Sahoo entered the quarters to discover Manju and Shiv in a ‘compromising position’. Angered and distressed by the situation, Sahoo slapped his wife twice, while Shiv fled the scene. In a bizarre move, Sahoo then locked himself inside the kitchen.
According to reports, Manju told the police that had continuously knocked on the door, but Sahoo did not respond. When she called her employer and eventually broke through the kitchen, she saw that Sahoo had hung himself.
However the whole situation could have taken place as a result of a serious misunderstanding. Based on what she told the police, Manju alleged that Shiv had gagged her and taken her forcibly into the bathroom. She claimed that her now-deceased husband had misread the situation. According to her, she was not willfully cheating on him, but rather, she was being taken against her will by Shiv, her co-worker.
Lesson to learn
In this tragic case, a life was lost and while nothing has been confirmed, the death could have possibly been averted if the wife was telling the truth and the husband had taken the time to properly assess the situation before acting in blind rage and despair. The lesson to draw from this story is to have trust in relationships. So here are some key factors needed to build that level of trust in your relationship with your significant other.
Communication is the core of a relationship and is an integral part of building trust and sustaining the relationship. Communication does not mean only one person does the talking but requires both partners contributing a fair share. The topics must not always be on trivial matters but must sometimes touch on emotions and matters of the heart. At times, we must be straightforward about our needs and expectations.
Trust sometimes involves being able to forgive your partner for hurt caused. Relationships die off fast if petty problems and old issues continue to take centre-stage, unresolved and not forgiven. Unhappiness will continue in either one or both of the people in the relationship unless the partners agree to forgive, and move on.
As a partner and a friend, you have to empathise with your partner. It is important to show concern for your partner’s feelings and be sensitive to his needs. If you understand his deepest desires and identify with his interests, he will be more inclined to trust you. The reverse is true, if you snub and ridicule him when he has stumbled and fallen.