The mental scars of physical child abuse run deep, but sexual abuse in children may just rob the child of a potentially healthy future — emotionally speaking. Child abuse comes in four main forms: physical abuse, sexual abuse, neglect and psychological abuse.
A man from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia did the unthinkable when he raped his own son who was less than a month old. How did he justify his incestous behaviour? Apparently, his wife turned him down when he was feeling randy. Fortunately the baby survived the brutal rape, but not all victims of abuse live to tell their tale.
Violence in their very own home
Home sweet home? Not so much for this unsuspecting 39-year-old mom, whose baby became the victim of rape in what she would expect to be a loving and secure home environment.
Gombak deputy OCPD Supt. Rosly Hassan said: “We believe the incident took place in the bedroom of the family’s home at Batu Caves. The mother was believed to be resting in the living room when the incident took place.”
Signs of a sexually abused baby
Trust the non-verbals of your baby. If possible be aware of the signs, for your baby’s bodily cues never lie. The mother realized that her baby was not bubbly, instead, he was weak and spiritless. While bathing her baby, she also noticed unusual marks on the anus and mouth which were presumably the affected areas of child abuse.
Supt. Rosly Hassan said: “She brought him to a nearby clinic before being referred to Selayang Hospital where doctors confirmed that the baby was sodomised.”
It is of utmost importance that you take your baby to the doctor if you notice any signs or marks that spell foul play.
The police believe that the bruises from the baby’s mouth is the result of the man trying to stifle the baby’s cries while engaging in the atrocious act of rape. His muffling attempt was a success because his wife did not hear their baby’s struggle.
Police have already picked the man up, last Friday, after his wife made a police report at the Selayang police station.
Programmes and support groups in Singapore
It is very important to know that you are not alone when faced with the harrowing child abuse situation. So, it is helpful to know where you can turn to for a shoulder to cry on or to seek advice.
There are agencies like the Center for Promoting Alternatives to Violence (PAVe) and The National Family Violence Networking System– just to name a couple. PAVe’s main goal is to promote positive alternatives to violence in the lives of people experiencing interpersonal violence with remedial services. The National Family Violence Networking System has regular inter-agency training programmes on child abuse cases.
The Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports has a useful website that equips the public with necessary information, services and other essential resources when facing child abuse cases. No one should ever have to live through a child abuse case in the dark. Fortunately the Singaporean government has shed some light on the topic and provided support groups for victims.